Take it from someone who should have done it before leaving the house for four years
This is what I would like to do before leaving my hometown for four years in a new city. Looking back, I didn' t realize it would be the last extended period of time, when I'd have to really appreciate my childhood memories
You're in category 12. You have accepted (or are willing to accept) your offer to a school that is not in your hometown. You're delighted that you're finally getting out of the city where you've spent your entire life, and to meet people who haven't been in your face for the last 12 years. You feel it's old, and you're completely surpassing your environment. You have a few friends you know you will miss, but in most cases you will welcome the world
It was me in April of my class for 12 years. What I don't understand at this point is how severe the cut would be from my own world. After you leave school, you will spend two to four years in a new city surrounded by my unfamiliar spaces and faces. This is certainly a blessing, and gives you the opportunity to learn and grow in all your "maturing"
You may not realize that beyond the holidays and perhaps summer vacation, you will probably never spend another long period in your hometown. After the first year, it's because you have a lease. After the lease, it's because of your new summer job. After your new assignment, it's because you've finished your work. And after graduation, it's because you're a full-grown man with a job and a life beyond what you once was. It won't be completely immersing in half the way in your post-secondary school, and it's going to hurt you when you start remembering good memories from your hometown.
Don't get me wrong. With good memories comes as many bad as good, but most of all it matters
Knowing what I know now is what I would do before I leave the house
1. Thank you to the people who are important to you
In my "native city" there were about 10 people who have an official influence on my decisions in life and the lessons I learned. They have pieces of who I am before this day, and that's why I have a happy memory of my hometown
If I knew I would never have a 10-minute drive away from them, I would have put them away or wrote a letter to learn about their impact on my life. They can find this solution, but if you leave the house with the certainty that you have left this relationship on the best note, you will only appreciate the days that you will only appreciate in the days when you get the blue.
By the way, you can get a scholarship to think about your parents. Seriously. Backup
2. Do your favorite things for your last month in town
I've spent so many of my last days preparing my movement, thinking about my new life, and I didn' t think that in my hometown, when I was gone to school, I would have a clean slate. It's okay to be excited, but you have four years of school to do it. Focus on "now"
With this thinking, I'd go on another road drive or another drive to Wild Wing with my closest friends and realized how I felt at that moment. It sounds very corny, but black and valuable minutes are only effective when you can recreate the moment in your memory. Try to absorb so many details, as you can about the moment and the people who matter-remembering them in memory will be much easier when you need the most
3. Visit your aunt Susan
Your parents have seen you every day for the last 18 years. Just as they will miss you, they look forward to when you thrive in a new environment. But what about relatives who didn' t have the chance to see your smile so often? They were relatives I didn' t care when I was wearing your shoes.
Visit your uncle and uncle, whom you only see for Thanksgiving. One-one-one-one time with your grandparents, who were always in your corner, cheers for your success. In fact, it's hard to find time to do that when you're in school. Your life will be busy. You have set your own priorities. It's one of my biggest regret for my time in my hometown. Visit. Yours. Family
I was a big fan of photography at school, so the fact that I never photographed the people I loved was something I really regret. Your phone has a powerful camera: use it. Take random pictures of you, your friends, your experience and the fun excursion with which you are. Are you going to the ice cream in your favorite local living room? Whether your photo is with you, your friends, and your instance is a decent treat. You don't have to print these spades or hang them with headlights in the new dormitory (though it looks like AF), but just having them on your phone does really "www" moments when scrolling your albums
Plus, your friends will be thrilled that you made the actual pictures they can put on the "gram."
5. Put the drama into bed
You've spent more than ten years with practically the same people. I know with certainty that you have an unremarkable relationship with some people you never get along with. Maybe Becky's science class said some nasty stuff behind your back in the 11th grade, or maybe Jason has always put you away. As you become your adult, you are going to work 100% in these people at some point in the future. Let me tell you: it is so strange to see them and not to know whether to smile, frower, or look into the eyes. Make this decision easier for yourself and put your best foot forward
How do you do it? At some point, go to them before you leave and say these simple words " Hey! I would like to wish you all the best when we finish our work. " You don't apologize. You're not passive-aggressive. You really send them all your wishes, and you can just leave it on that. Even if they don't reciprocate, you did the right one.
Trust me. This simple proposal will provide you with the necessary closure for many years
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Vincent is the managing director of Don't Freak Out! (DFO) is a company that teaches high school students how to manage their money. He also speaks about groups of young professionals on subjects such as how to find your passion, how to be an effective young leader and how to maintain healthy physical and mental habits